Love Only Makes Sense When You Share It

Love is the ability to give and share affections, without hurting yourself or others. And, of course, we are not only talking exclusively about couple relationships, but also parental relationships, those that exist between great friends, between family members …

Not knowing how to satisfactorily meet the needs of the other and, therefore, not offering a love that invites the person to grow, to feel part of something and have roots, leads us to heartbreak or to the so-called “toxic love”. And, on the other hand, to remain with a person who keeps us naked of that affection, who does not offer us a base of security and recognition.

The love that is not shared or that does not know how to offer itself in its entirety, ends up leading us to emotional loneliness and suffering. We invite you to reflect on it.

Love modifies your brain

There are many experts who remind us that man, when he comes into the world, is noble by nature.

However, if we take into account the enormous weight that stimuli, affections, education, previous experiences and society have on the baby’s brain, we often understand the reason for certain behaviors.

• Love modifies many structures in our brain in a very intense way. More than ten areas can be affected if, throughout our development, we only find deficiencies or rejections.

• A poorly stimulated brain does not develop adaptively. This is because we are vetoing the growth of those areas related to emotions, with sociability.

• A brain that receives “negative” stimuli on a regular basis is a mind subject to stress and anxiety. This limits, for example, the correct maturation of a child’s brain. He will not settle knowledge and information with the same ease as another child brought up in a harmonious and loving context.

As for the human being in general

Let us now put aside that love that we all need in our childhood. Let’s think about the impact that affective relationships loaded with suffering and mistreatment have on human beings.

• There are many relationships that are based on a love that “hurts”, that controls, that causes fear and suffering.
• It may surprise you, but an adult brain subjected to this type of stimuli for a long time also generates a series of very notorious biochemical and brain changes, similar to post-traumatic stress.
• A person who lives subjected to a situation of emotional abuse, where love is not sincere or, simply, “does not know how to offer itself as it should”, suffers from sleep problems, anxiety, low self-esteem and even a reduction in that brain structure related to emotions: the hypothalamus.

Love only makes sense when you share it, this love makes our world bigger

The love that knows how to share makes us bigger inside than outside. Because this is how everything makes sense, because this is how positive relationships are cared for and strengthened.

We all deserve to be loved, respected and recognized. If today you have one or more people who bring you all this, don’t let them escape. Well, this is what every human being needs in this world. It is a universal law.

Loving is, above all, knowing how to understand and see others as oneself. We all know that contempt hurts, that not knowing how to respect causes suffering and that vetoing personal space is limiting that inner growth that we all deserve.

It is not the same to love as “knowing how to love”

Perhaps at some point in your life you have met someone “who said he loved you” and yet never knew how to do it correctly.

• There are those who think that love is just a dimension that is shared without further ado, and that it does not require daily efforts.
• Not being a father, mother, brother or partner is all done. To love is to know how to listen, to attend, to be when it is needed and to demonstrate it every day in the simplest, most elementary acts.
• Love must be seen and it must be noticed. Sometimes words have no greater significance if we do not accompany them with acts that demonstrate it to us.

We are sure that you have many people in your life who love you and who you love. Do not forget that it is necessary to take care of them as the best of treasures. However, don’t forget that you too deserve to be loved, recognized and cared for.

Claim it if yours have forgotten it. Because sharing love is a great act where we all win.